"Romantic love holds up a mirror, albeit a distorted and shamelessly flattering one."
Boy, howdy....
With any luck, age brings wisdom...and what wisdom will do is give perspective. I can look back at some of the silly/ill-advised/just plain stupid things I've done for love, all of the "WTF was I THINKING??" episodes...and realize that they were teaching me something. What those assorted lunatic moments were teaching was that I deserve to be loved AND treated with respect. For too long I was willing to get myself into situations where things felt good for awhile, but then the roller coaster effect would set in. Up and down and up and down...and I went along for the ride, because it felt good and I figured that's what I deserved.
Before I met Erin, I was in a rather tumultuous relationship for 2 1/2 years. The sex was great, but she was never sure that what we had was what she needed...and so we broke up and got back together on four different occasions. I would wait for her to call me, and I'd go crawling back. Finally, after the last time, I realized that I deserve better. Once I walked away from that, it was if a weight had been lifted from me. I met Erin shortly after, and she was willing to let me do what I needed to do to heal. There's a lot to be said for stability.
Was trying to find an old saying I found to be true for me from my teenage years. Didn't see it anywhere but had a good laugh at how much in the dark a lot of sayings still are or (maybe, unfortunately) representative of our times. Ie, 'It's good to be loved. It's profound to be understood' , horrible, on so many levels. I rather have Joan Crawfords 'Love is a fire. But whether it's going to warm your hearth or burn down your house, you can never tell.'
The German saying I was looking for was something on the line of: 'it's great to be loved, but to love, Gods, what a joy.'
To love is so totally it's own reward for it makes us strive to be better people, to pick ourselves up again when we stumble, to notice and share the miracles and wonders of this world.
I love Zarathustra's : Bless the cup that wants to overflow, that the waters may flow from there and bear the reflection of your joy, over all the world.
Our failures in loving teach us to fill the cups of others and that in being able to do so we're already blessed and further to widen that love to all that's in this world, including, of course, ourselves.
(My stories/failures to get thus far: Too many to list. Lol, maybe another time.
"Romantic love holds up a mirror, albeit a distorted and shamelessly flattering one."
Boy, howdy....
With any luck, age brings wisdom...and what wisdom will do is give perspective. I can look back at some of the silly/ill-advised/just plain stupid things I've done for love, all of the "WTF was I THINKING??" episodes...and realize that they were teaching me something. What those assorted lunatic moments were teaching was that I deserve to be loved AND treated with respect. For too long I was willing to get myself into situations where things felt good for awhile, but then the roller coaster effect would set in. Up and down and up and down...and I went along for the ride, because it felt good and I figured that's what I deserved.
Before I met Erin, I was in a rather tumultuous relationship for 2 1/2 years. The sex was great, but she was never sure that what we had was what she needed...and so we broke up and got back together on four different occasions. I would wait for her to call me, and I'd go crawling back. Finally, after the last time, I realized that I deserve better. Once I walked away from that, it was if a weight had been lifted from me. I met Erin shortly after, and she was willing to let me do what I needed to do to heal. There's a lot to be said for stability.
Hi, because 'in giving, we receive' !
Was trying to find an old saying I found to be true for me from my teenage years. Didn't see it anywhere but had a good laugh at how much in the dark a lot of sayings still are or (maybe, unfortunately) representative of our times. Ie, 'It's good to be loved. It's profound to be understood' , horrible, on so many levels. I rather have Joan Crawfords 'Love is a fire. But whether it's going to warm your hearth or burn down your house, you can never tell.'
The German saying I was looking for was something on the line of: 'it's great to be loved, but to love, Gods, what a joy.'
To love is so totally it's own reward for it makes us strive to be better people, to pick ourselves up again when we stumble, to notice and share the miracles and wonders of this world.
I love Zarathustra's : Bless the cup that wants to overflow, that the waters may flow from there and bear the reflection of your joy, over all the world.
Our failures in loving teach us to fill the cups of others and that in being able to do so we're already blessed and further to widen that love to all that's in this world, including, of course, ourselves.
(My stories/failures to get thus far: Too many to list. Lol, maybe another time.